25 Things I’ve Learned In My 20s

  So I saw this online and it really really applies to me now at 23 almost 24... fml. I can literally name situations that these happened to me. Some occurred before my 20s but hey 20s are suppose to be some fun times before you become an adult.

 

25 Things I’ve Learned In My 20s

1. You can’t date a jerk and expect to turn them into a good person. Jerks are fully committed to being unpleasant. Those brief moments of tenderness they give you are designed to trip you up and give you false hope. It’s best to stay away altogether.
• Dated a jerk at 18 and you can imagine how it turned out. Learned to just stay away from the jerks and never fall for their tricks and go for the nice guy :)
2. The rumors are true: your metabolism does slow down as you get older! That means if you’re still eating whatever you want, there’s a good chance you’ll start to gain an awkward amount of weight. It won’t be too drastic but your clothes will start to hang differently on your body and you’ll feel an overall feeling of unattractiveness. Start to be conscious of what you eat and strive to live a healthier lifestyle if you want to get your teen body back. (Let’s be real though, that might not ever come back.)
• I guess this doesn't apply that much to me YET. (knock on wood) I hover between the same weight. I definitely been gaining some but it doesn't show. Got to start exercising more often and eat less junk!
3. You’re going to lose touch with a lot of your friends. With some people, it will be expected but with others it will feel like a punch to the stomach. No friendship is truly safe in your twenties. You’re undergoing so many personal and professional changes that there’s bound to be some casualties along the way. Don’t worry though. You’ll end up with the ones that matter. If someone’s no longer in your life, it’s for a reason.
1. I know I lost touch with some high school friends. I'm trying hard now to keep in touch with my college friends but that would probably be harder during the next four years. High school is such an awkward stage whereas college everyone is just nice and chill. I do have some best friends and that won't just change. Even if things aren't as great as it used to, as life likes to screw you, I would be there for them in a heartbeat. I don't doubt my love for them
4. You’ll be jealous of everyone who’s more successful than you. That’s okay. Just transfer that jealousy into something productive, like working really hard so you can one day eclipse them and make them feel jealous of YOU.
• I am totally jealous of all my friends who have jobs and are successful because I am still going to school and making $0.00000. I hope I can make them jealous but I really don't care. Money is to provide a better life for my family and friends. Not to ruin relationships. 
5. You’ll question every decision you make and never feel completely certain that you made the right choice. It’s pointless to wonder though. You’re here now so you might as well make it be the right decision.
• YEP. I am already feeling like I made all the wrong choices about applying to schools and my choice. I am having a hard time convincing myself that I'm like moving east. I guess I will spend the next few days accepting this and start getting excited for my new life.
6. You’re going to give your heart to a few people who don’t deserve it. Then, one day you’ll come to your senses and ask them to give it back.
• I did and it hurts but I got right back up. I guess it can apply to friends or even family that don't deserve your love too.  I will take it as a life lesson and learn from it.
7. You’ll see your parents get older. You’ll come home during Christmas break and see new lines developing on their faces. One day it’ll just hit you that your parents are old and going to die. There’s nothing you can do about it, besides treat them with kindness and visit as much as your budget permits.
• I don't think I SEE this yet. I left home but came back weekly. I do see my grandparents get old and that really made me care more. I try to be there more often but at the moment I cannot wait to move out. But I know this will apply to me soon.
8. You’ll have a boss who makes you feel like you’re nothing. It doesn’t have to be in a Devil Wears Prada way. The cruelty can be much more subtle. Don’t let them get to you though. They have no idea who the hell you really are and you’re probably going to have their job someday so…
• Nope, not yet. I hope I don't have a diabolic boss in my field. It's professional right?
9. Doing drugs is fun until it’s not, until it starts affecting your life in negative ways and leaves you feeling guilty and wrecked. If that happens, you should stop doing them.
• I never do drugs. My ex taught me not to use it or I'll end up like him. No offense, but it really screws you up and make bad choices in life that end up hurting other people... like me. I think it's disgusting anyways
10. You’re going to puke in public. It’s fine. No one cares. Just puke.
• I did it once at 3AM. NEVER again.
11. You’ll know how to make twenty dollars last an entire week because you spent almost all of your paycheck on groceries at Whole Foods and drunk cab rides. This lesson in frugality will serve you well.
• Already do. I have friends during college years who buy hundreds of dollars of groceries and expect us to split it. I learn say no and cook for myself. It's just ridiculous how expensive things are these days. My bf and I currently try to cook meals at home and watch movies at home instead. Though he insist we eat out more before we leave but I know that I need to practice cheap eating. I never really notice it, but I met a girl who really struggle with living because their family isn't well off. I know my family isn't the richest out there but we get bills paid and enough to splurge on clothes and junk. Even so, I am a cheapskate so I guess this doesn't apply to me that badly except I do need to buy less and SAVE since tuition sucks.
12. You’re going to betray your convictions. You’re going to feel shame. You’re going to continue to put yourself in situations that aren’t good for you. And then, slowly but surely, it will become less frequent. It might not ever go away completely but it won’t be as bad. In the meantime, stop shame spiraling about it. It gets you nowhere.
• I think I did it when I was dating my ex. I really did things I would have never done and feel guilty. I learn the hard way and my friends and family forgave me. I guess I need to learn to look at the brighter things in life like how I have wonderful families and friends.
13. Loving yourself is hard. Hating yourself is harder.
• I hate my weak self and will need to become stronger.
14. You’re going to hook up with someone who you would never touch in the daylight sober. Just don’t freak out too much about it. Consider it to be your good deed for the day.
• I hope this doesn't happen. I am happy with my bf
15. You’re going to have people in your life who are toxic. They may say that they love you, they may say that they have your back, but they don’t. Get rid of them.
• I think I know of them but at the moment I will do nothing. I hate confrontations and I rather see the good in people and try to understand why they may be toxic. I have one friend who had it hard her whole life and nothing goes her way so she's a bitch but I will still love her. I have enough love to give even if they don't deserve it. Getting hurt is a different story 
16. You’ll have moments with someone that are so intense, it’ll feel like you’ve been electrocuted back to life. You’ll hold on to these moments for a long time. They’ll give you hope when you’re going through the motions.
• I admit my ex gave me this feeling and my bf makes me feel good everyday. I am just glad that I have someone who has my back now and I can say anything to. They do exist. Every time my bf comes pick me up I get the most giddy feeling that sometimes it feels like the first date.
17. You’ll always care about your first love. That doesn’t make you crazy, it just makes you human. When relationships end, it’s not so cut and dry. You carry everyone you’ve ever loved into every relationship thereafter.
• I don't care as much anymore just because he cheated and broke my heart. I do wonder about him sometimes. It is HARD getting over first love and it was even harder having him come back to make me emo. I am glad I went for the nice guy ;)
18. You’ll enter your twenties as a fashion disaster and (hopefully) leave them looking fantastic. If you don’t know how to put yourself together by then, I really don’t know what to tell you.
• I admit, I bought some random clothing. My style is SLOWLY moving away from graphic tees to plain tees and more professional. I love fashion though so maybe some things won't change. I do think I look good tho.
19. You’ll realize that the Internet can be a cruel son of a bitch but, you know, www.whatever.com.
• I learn not to trust the internet. Do more research first through multiple searches and learn to pick out the right answer.
20. So much of what you think matters doesn’t actually matter at all. It’s kind of rude. Like, thanks for making me believe in things that are ultimately so inconsequential, you jerk.
• At the moment family, friends, bf, job is the most important. The only one that would change is probably job/money. I know it's not the most important but makes the others more happy. I guess ultimately as long as you matter not else will.
21.  You’ll treat someone terribly. Whether it to be a lover or your friend, there’ll be someone whose feelings you take for granted. We focus too much on whether or not someone is hurting us. The reality is that we might actually be the one who’s hurting someone.
• I totally AGREE. I feel like I'm not the best friend or girlfriend but I do try to reach out. Especially now that I'm moving away. I will work harder on this and try to be a good friend/gf/daughter. I need to be calmer and accept things that come my way.
22. Doing “grown-up things” doesn’t make you a grown up. Shopping for housewares, buying a plant, embracing domesticity — these things don’t create maturity. If you’re still a baby who hasn’t figured things out, you’ll remain a baby, no matter how many times you pay your rent on time.
• I totally agree. I think I will never truly grow up until my kids are old.
23. Don’t force yourself into loving anyone. If it’s not working in the beginning, it’s probably not going to work ever.
• I think being a hopeless romantic makes it hard. I really cannot hate someone because I try to look for the good and give benefit of the doubt.
24. You are so lucky to have everything that you have. Stop crying about an unreturned text message and get some perspective.
• I admit I do get a little sad that messages get ignored. This really makes me think that I should focus on the better things in my life so that this crap is irreverent.
25. Don’t go too long without having sex. Ever.
    
    • Does it apply to a virgin? I am curious but just not 100% ready. I'm glad my bf is patient. Just I feel so insecure about myself that it is affecting me as a person. 
    
    
    
    
    In conclusion, I need to keep growing and learning. Learn to love myself with my flaws and all and love others too. I will continue this journey called life and hope I will get a happy ending.
    The Secret is to think positive and appreciate the little things that make the bad ones seem obsolete.